Does a father of three children and two divorces have a chance?

Of course it is not in vain. Some people have to go through a few terrible relationships and heartache before meeting the "right" person. As far as baggage yes check it at the door. You never want to enter a new relationship with baggage. The only thing from your past that should travel into your future is your children and they are not baggage, they are just part of the "package" and that is different. As far as the kids go I would never introduce them to anyone new until u have formed a very good foundation with this person and honestly feel that this is a person u would like to have some kind of future with. Don't bring your fears and distrust into any new relationship either, remember nobody wants to pay for an x's mistakes. Be cautious and watch for signs that you learnt from your past, but be open to a new person for who "they" are. Slowly tell of your past that is not something that u need to blurt out all at once, I think that is a mistake many people make and it scares people off. Keep it simple until the time is right. I will definately agree with u that abusive women are looked upon much differently then men. No-one has the right to treat another person like that whether it be man or woman. I am sorry for what u have had to go through, but believe me u can get through this and find someone to love and respect u like u should be. Stay strong, stay open minded and love will find u when the time is right. Good luck